I'd like to share a lesson that I've found incredibly valuable and impactful, one that I initially imparted to my daughters during their bouts of illness. This lesson, unexpectedly, revealed profound insights when applied to my work.
When my girls catch a cold, they naturally feel unwell, experiencing headaches, sore throats, and body aches. In response, we address these symptoms with care—extra sleep, headache tablets, or our trusty magic water for gargling. We don't dismiss their feelings; they are allowed to experience the discomfort. However, there's a crucial distinction – they aren't encouraged to broadcast their illness to everyone around them.
Feeling unwell is acknowledged, but not claimed.
Why? Because what you focus on, you create more of. This fundamental principle is at the core of manifesting positive change. If you continually express your sickness to others, you internalize and perpetuate that feeling. It doesn't mean you deny your emotions; it means you choose not to feed the energy of illness.
"But how do I respond when someone asks about my well-being?" you might wonder. Opt for responses like, "Yes, I'm under the weather, but I'm already feeling better" or "I am on the path to recovery." Internally, cultivate a dialogue such as "Every minute, I'm improving" or "My body heals rapidly." This subtle shift creates an atmosphere of healing rather than dwelling in unwellness.
Now, if you're unwell, should you stay at work? No, take the necessary steps to recover, but resist wallowing in self-pity. Don't let thoughts of illness dominate your day. Does this make sense?
Applying this analogy to my work with clients, I noticed a fascinating pattern. Some instantly grasp the analogy, recognizing how their thoughts shape their reality, leading to transformative moments of awareness and healing.
Yet, there are others who strongly reject the comparison. Their anger flares as they insist, "This is not a cold; it's..." (insert their struggle or illness). They've fully embraced and claimed their pain, seeking external validation and attention. This often stems from deep-seated traumas, concealed by their inability to recognize the cycle of pain they're trapped in.
Over the years, I've learned that it's a choice. You can choose to "keep your cold" or to "heal."
The question remains: Are you going to "keep your cold"?
Choose wisely.
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